You my find it hard to believe that a massage therapist and spa consultant has a tough time both relaxing and finding time for myself. However, I am also a Type-A, overachieving workaholic who often puts other people's needs infront of my own. Recently though, for may reasons, I have decided to be a little "selfish" by putting my own needs and well-being forst more often. I encourage you to do the same in preparation for the upcoming holidays. Here are a few quick and easy suggestions that can help you stave off some of the impending end of the year stress.

Have a Cell Phone Free Lunch - Yes, we all have times when we have to be reached, but give yourself permission to eat your mid-day meal in peace. Surely most work and personal matters are not so pressing that you need interrupt your lunchtime nosh with the chiming of your Nokia. Other diners will appreciate your phone-free chow session and you'll have a chance to really enjoy and savor everything on your plate as well as the company of the people dining with you. You'll be back at work soon enough. And who knows, maybe you'll start a new trend!

Take Five - When life is kicking into high-gear or has really got you at your limit, take a few minutes to regroup. Even in the middle of the day, remember that both the office and bedroom door can be closed to create a pocket of "you" time. If you can't get-away at home or work, go sit in your car, escape to a local park or hide out in a closet and just be. Sit back and take a few deep breaths, close your eyes, think happy thoughts or just let your mind wander. When you've had time to regain a little peace and perspective about the world and whatever is driving you crazy, you'll emerge more relaxed and refreshed.

Say No...With a Smile - Some of us feel the need to do and be all things that others expect or request of us. And most of us by nature want to please others. That's great, but where do you stop? People want us to come to their parties and social gatherings of the season, be in charge of our/their family gatherings, collect gifts, goodies and donations for their charities, and the list goes on and on. By saying no to some requests and yes to the things that really matter to you most (including your wellbeing!) you will have both a greater impact on others and a better time. Maybe Santa's new phrase should be "No No No Merry Christmas!"

As I am learning, most of us need to be reminded both to take care of ourselves and how to do it. Many people also need to be given permission to do something that is just for them. So let me say it just for you. "You have my permission to take care of yourself now and always!" For other ideas on quick and easy ways to relax, try the book Stress Management for Busy People by Dawn Groves or Inner Peace for Busy People by Joan Borysenko. Happy Holidays!